The Gift of Space
When our family went from three children to five, literally overnight, many years ago, there was one thing that still stands to me as being absolutely necessary to all of us to smooth that transition. It was vital, we couldn't have managed without it, and it was both utterly free and totally luxurious.
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This retreat was marvelously helpful for *everybody*. It made them calmer the rest of the day. This downtime was just vitally important for each of us. Everybody felt more pleasant for it. Everybody had sweeter spirits for it, more restful souls. Usually when we come back together at the end of the hour, we come with our souls and spirits refreshed, calmed, and our sharper edges smoothed and comfortable again.
We later moved to a smaller house with less space, and sometime quiet time had to be in the same room. In this case, I put one in an easy chair turned towards the wall, and one in the couch where she couldn't see anybody. This isn't punishment, it's a *gift.* It's vitally important *space* in the day- downtime, a retreat from all the stimuli that can get little children's nerves on edge without them even realizing it. Ours was a special situation, but I believe one of the simplest ideas to help any family smooth any rough edges of living together in small spaces is quiet time.
It's very important that the children not be where they can see each other, because quiet time is basically the Trappist Monk Hour. There is no speaking. There is not even any listening to music or playing electronic games that beep and flash at you. At some designated time in the afternoon everybody must go to a quiet corner and either nap or work on some silent activity. When the older girls grew to be teens I did let quiet time happen on the computer, not games, just emails- but I think this was a mistake. Here are some other ideas.
Quiet Time Activities~ We do not demand that the children (and later young people) nap during quiet time. They just have to spend their time quietly, and largely technology-free. Nothing that beeps, whistles, flashes lights, whirs or dings. They cannot play computer games or work on musical instruments. They have colored, written letters, read a book of their choosing, done puzzles, played with paper dolls, played solitaire, prayed, read their Bibles, played with lace up cards, worked on a sewing project, worked on origami, played with a few small cars and small toy animals, and played with some tinkertoys during their quiet time. The rules are to choose what they will be working on and take the supplies they need to their quiet time area. There is no leaving the quiet time space to run grab another toy because one has changed his mind, or because one forgot the scissors. Napping is always permissible, it's just not required after the children reach an age when they obviously do not need a nap (this depends entirely on the child. Pipsqueak was 6 before she could manage to get through a day without a nap. HG was 20 months old).
Where to have Quiet Time~ Finding a private corner is not always easy in a small house. I'll share some of the ways we've managed. We like quiet time where the children cannot even see each other. If they see each other they do not feel the same sense of privacy, and they have a greater temptation to spiritually depart the trappist state and make entertaining faces at one another. When we have had bunk beds and no other options, we have had a child on the top bunk and one on the bottom in the same room, although this is not my preference. It's still better than not having quiet time. If I had to put children in the same room for quiet time, I would separate them visually by hanging up a sheet or tablecloth between them, or setting up a screen of some sort.
We usually have had a child take quiet time in our bedroom, and one in the living room. I have taken quiet time activities of my own to the kitchen or dining room in order to make more spaces for the children to have their quiet time. Pulling the couch out from the wall and putting a sleeping bag and pillow down can make another quick and easy private space (children generally love closed in spaces like this, too). You can throw a sheet over a card table or the dining room table to make a 'tent.' Perhaps you can make room on a closet floor for a sleeping bag or some cushions from a loveseat and a blanket. You can turn an easy chair with its back to the room and put one child in the easy chair and another on the couch or love seat on the other side of the room. These quiet spaces only take a minute to prepare, and are quick to clear away.
The resulting refreshment to the soul long outlasts the time it might take to make temporary small spaces for quiet time retreats. ~~~~~~~
I learned about Quiet Time many years ago from Elisabeth Elliot and her Gateway to Joy program.
We have enjoyed her books as well, in particular:
Keep a Quiet Heart
The Shaping of A Christian Family
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8 Responses to “The Gift of Space”
April 11th, 2008 at 7:08 am
Wow! What a fantastic idea. Everyone needs a little quiet time, whether we need it or not. Teaching your children this at a young age is awesome…and to be admired. We may take this on sometime soon. Great idea!
April 11th, 2008 at 8:53 am
I’m not even a parent but I think that’s a fabulous idea!
April 11th, 2008 at 9:03 am
What a lovely post–with such great ideas:) I am hoping to extend my family too, soon. My children are rather spread apart in age so it is easy for them to have quiet time. If I have babies closer in age, I will have to remember this post!
Julieann
http://juliean-mylife.blogspot.com/
April 11th, 2008 at 12:18 pm
I love quiet time. We practiced quiet time when my kids were younger and it was a blessing to all of us. We came out of quiet time refreshed and better able to cope with life and each other. Now that the kids are older and mostly moved on to adult lives, I still practice my own quiet time – 20 minutes with my door closed and no interruptions works miracles for my outlook. When the kids are grown don’t loose the magic of quiet time.
April 11th, 2008 at 7:56 pm
I still need Quiet Time every day!
…and I’m worn out, short-tempered…just generally a Pill of the First Order when I don’t take a little rest…
April 13th, 2008 at 10:52 pm
Ahhh, you’re speaking my language.
I still need quiet time with both our children now in school.
Time to turn off everything even the phone, otherwise I cannot hear what God has to say to me.
Even puppy dog ‘Angel’ is left outside to contemplate her world of bones & rambles.
April 17th, 2008 at 6:10 pm
Can i ask what you did during the same time? Did you take the quiet time yourself or did you catch up on cleaning, etc.?
This is a wonderful idea. Wow. i have a 14-month old right now and another on the way, and i will pack this hack away for later. It sounds so great.
April 21st, 2008 at 8:46 pm
Jessica, I assume this question was directed to all?
I talk to God, I listen to what he has to say to me. I make plans to follow out His instructions.
I do my Bible Study. I pray for others especially immediate family & friends.
I listen to the sounds of silence.
I meditate on what I have done during the week and what is yet still to be done………….
I go about the rest of my workday refreshed, rejuvenated and relaxed.
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